Dominic Monaghan has become very outspoken about heartbreak and sobriety.
In an interview with Anna Faris for her podcast not qualifiedAnd the The Lost The alum, 45, is talking about his breakup with fellow co-star Evangeline Lilly, 43, saying he found out she cheated on him while the duo was filming the hit song series, which ran from 2004 to 2010, in Hawaii.
“You really only broke my heart once in my life,” the British actor began. “I was dating an actress in Lost Evangeline is called Lilly, who, as you know, has earned her own name. And yes, you know, I don’t really know how you’re going to explain the narration, but from my point of view, it was probably the first time in my life that I kind of got involved.”
The Lord of the rings star and Lilly dated from 2004 to 2007 before they called it take off.
Monaghan admitted that at the time, he and Lily were “exploring” the idea of sons and marriage. But he was also battling his demons, including his severe addiction to drugs and alcohol, which didn’t get along with Lily as their relationship became more serious.
“I was always the guy who wanted more. I always wanted to drink more, eat more, stay up-to-date, and go to the rackets. And I just thought she was okay with that,” he said. “I think she might have been constantly exploring an idea like, ‘Okay, that’s fine for a while, but, you know, he’s not going to be a great dad or a great husband because he’s got all this work to do,’ she definitely did.”
“I think she was kind of looking around to see what another option was, and unfortunately, there was a bit of a crossover, which was really annoying to me,” he continued. “It kind of exploded in my face.
“You just exploded in my face in a horrible way because you didn’t just go through a public breakup, because at the time, that TV show was Lost It was kind of a big deal all over the world, so it was known that we were together and then we knew we weren’t together.”
While the couple did not openly comment on their separation at the time, Monaghan admitted that she cheated on him into Tweet 2013 When he replied to her text message, “Evangeline looked unreal at the hobbitOh man oh man “writing” no. I don’t date cheaters. “
Monaghan spoke about the experience to Faris, explaining that someone had informed him that Lily had been cheating on him with someone else during filming. Lost.
He said, “To say I’m broken is an understatement.” “A third party should have told me like, ‘You realize she’s with this guy,’ when we were together. And I said, ‘Wait, what?” And this person was like, ‘Yeah.’
“I really think they were trying to help,” he said of the messenger, who doesn’t call him by name. “They were kind of like, ‘You don’t have all the facts, we have.'” And there is a possibility that the island of Oahu is laughing at you. And I said, Oh, well, thank you for the transparency.”
The actor explained Lost The cast was “filmed everywhere, every beach” on the island of Oahu, so there was no escaping the gossip. “I kind of felt like, oh, so the entire film crew knew and they were keeping a secret for her,” he explained. “And I’ll kind of show up and be like an idiot ape.”
However, there is a silver lining. While the experience was devastating, Monaghan says it gave him the fuel he needed to straighten himself out.
“I’ve broken up with girls before, and when I looked at her I thought, ‘Okay, she’s a likable guy, but it’s never going to work out. There were things that would never work.” But sure, when I was with Evie, I was like, ‘That’s fine. The little things that, you know, we’re working on, we’ll figure out. And we’ll make beautiful shapes together forever.’
He added, “I think losing that potential was very sad, but it also brought me to who I am as a person. So I’m very happy that it all happened.”
He explains that this clarity welcomes new perspectives on love and what the future holds.
“It’s probably the number one thing I’m most positive about in my life,” he said of his love affair. “And I challenge a lot of people not to give up a little bit and not feel that it has been spoiled.
“You can be sarcastic about money, you can be mindful of who you spend your time with and things like that, but in terms of love, you just have to kind of give in and see what happens,” he added. The other thing with love, is that I want it to be effortless. I don’t want to work at it. You’ll work later when there’s a mortgage, there are bills, and when there are arguments that you need to get over.”
In terms of falling in love, Monaghan hasn’t given up hope. “I want him to [sweep] Stand my feet, shower me, and be a beautiful thing.”
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